Frozen Trunk or Treat

Two posts in one week? What is this lol.

I guess I just finally got my itch back to get on the blog.

I was so happy at the feedback I got from my blog about online dating, you guys from Facebook rock! It made me feel so humble, it was thought as well written and hilarious. I literally just wrote down experience, I am glad it was as inspiring as it was.

This weekend has been AMAZING. Seriously my life is just amazing and blessed. Friday was Leighton's school trunk-or-treat. My mom and I have had a blast decorating and getting ready our Frozen Themed trunk. We had a lot of the stuff since Leighton is Frozen obsessed, so it was quite easy to do. There were a couple of crafts though!

Enjoy for inspiration for a Frozen themed trunk for your Trunk-or-Treat!

We basically put down a white bed sheet for the base. Then we put down Christmas snow from Michael's on the base of the trunk. We had a Frozen poster we put on cardboard for our "sign." Leighton received the ice castle for her birthday party a couple of weeks ago, then we gathered all her Frozen dolls from around the house (which is a lot haha) to disperse all over. The ball pit was also a wonderful present we had gotten from my boss from my previous job. This was a HIT! The kids loved climbing in it-even though we used it as our game. We gave away spider rings for just an attempt at the ball pit. The Olaf balloon was from a local family owned party store called Party America.

Some things you will notice-the snowflakes: simple, simple project. We used my dad's fishing line, cut the sting, tied it to snowflakes from Michael's, and hung up them (the snowflakes) all over the car with tape.

We had so much stuff we set up a table! We used a simple $3 Styrofoam cooler get it "cooler," for the candy. It was super plain so we added some glitter flakes to the top and taped on snowflakes from Party America located in the Frozen merchandise section to the side. The glitter was also sprinkled on the table. The orange bowls were from the Dollar Store from a Halloween Party I threw a while back. We put the prizes and balls in them for the ball pit game.

The pumpkins were a hit at this Trunk-or-Treat! We bought discounted pumpkins that were plastic from Michael's 60% off. Two coats of glossy white spray paint, blue glitter, and glued on snowflakes later; we had "Frozen" Pumpkins. Make sure to put the glitter on while the paint is still wet from the second coat.

We hands-down were the favorite trunk to stop at for the night and we were the only Frozen trunk, surprisingly! We had guests take a gazillion pictures of our trunk only. It made us feel pretty good. I hope we can be some inspiration for your Frozen trunk!

Now enjoy some pictures of my beautiful daughter from her fun night!

She of course was Elsa to go along with our trunk! This is like one of our 4 Elsa dresses haha. She decided to be this one because it was more ballerina like, she was spending the whole day trying to convince me to be a ballerina superstar. This is the closest I could get to Elsa while combining ballerina superstar!

Love these two!! This is Leighton's best friend Ariana (my best friend Sam's little girl.) They are both Elsa, they were one of about 30 Elsa's of the night haha.

Getting some candy at the Ninja Turtle car that was pretty cool as well!

The cupcake walk. The boy sitting next to Leighton is a boy she tells me she marries on the playground everyday. Oh boy! I am in for it.

Update:

As you know, life never goes as planned. I said in my last post I was going to be getting a Kia Sportage this weekend.

After several hours, not having the car I wanted due to a earlier in the week dealer/trade, feeling a little cheated, and just not happy with the dealership we went to. I walked away from getting it. I decided to check Carmax out just to look at other options, and to figure out if I even want a Sportage. I then found the most perfect car. It only had a few miles on it and could've been brand new since it was a 2014. It had everything I wanted and the most beautiful color. I fell in loveeee.

So meet my new 2014 Ford Escape Titanium:)

Life is just pretty good:)

20 Guys of Online Dating

I am going to change things up, and I want to show you guys my writing skills. I want to write about "online dating." At that, you are probably already chuckling over the two letter phrase. I am pretty sure at one point or another we have ALL tried it. I personally have had a 0% success rate with it. I am not sure how anyone finds the love of their life on it, but then again I have a couple of best friends that have found the love of their life's through the world wide web, maybe it is just me.

I have been single for an embarrassingly long time. It has been almost exactly a year since I have even been on a date. Before that, I have dated only 1 guy in a span of 3 years. This was a three month thing, so in accordance to how long I have been single-this seems like a blink of an eye. Before that it had been the casual dating, but because I had been so f-ed up in the head from Leighton's dad, nothing has gone anywhere.

Plus, it is ridiculously hard to find someone as a single mom, like SUPER hard. I have been rejected numerous of times from guys just because I had a child (It is some other guys kid, I know I get it-but it still sucks because I am a great girl with so much to offer), I have a hard time finding the time (especially when I was in school), I do not go out hardly at all (Netflix and wine are my ideal Saturday night, and I am not the type to pine my daughter on my parents every chance I get), when I do go out once every 3 or so months-all the good ones are taken and all the bad ones; well I'll be across the room. I can spot ya'll like a red wine stain on white carpet, and lastly just no one seems to give me that undeniable chemistry.

I have learned to be pretty happy alone: no one to tell me what to do, Netflix :), sweat pants, creating my own successful life, no compromising, no arguing, no heart break, no worrying about what he is doing, and constantly attending to some needy man-child. Believe me guys, either I am just not needy at all or what, but ya'll are wayyy more needier than women in my case. I am just not a needy girl and like my time. Basically, I have got my independent women thing going on. I have planned my whole life out being single. I might buy a couple of Golden Retrievers-I am not a cat lady haha.

But, it gets pretty lonely. I gag every time I see a new engagement photo on Facebook. To be honest, I am extremely jealous. ALL, of my friend have boyfriends. Then there's me with no one to cuddle with, to buy me a Michael Kors boyfriend staple watch (fine I will buy one for myself), go on a date with, to be my other half, and to feel like I am wanted, needed, and loved. I just want to feel beautiful to someone. I want that butterflies in your gut feeling, like you're on top of the world, and you can't imagine your life without that person kind of thing. I haven't felt a thing in 3 years. I get jealous, because girls that have found that do not have to struggle through finding someone. Ya'll are lucky! I cannot express it enough. Dating is awful, horrible, and daunting.

I can control how everything goes in my life- being successful, being a mom and a good mom, and choosing how I want to live my life. The one thing I can't control is finding my life long soul mate, it is clearly out of my hands.

Well, all of this has led me to online dating. I thought I would give it a shot, but every time I do; I cannot help but laugh my way through the failed attempts of boys (notice boys NOT men.) Before this, I have tried everything: mutual friend's friends, going to bars, joining a single church group, trying new things, hitting up the gym, I mean everything. This is another hit and miss.

I have tried multiple platforms of online dating, and either I just am doing it wrong, or guys ya'll just suck. I am betting on the latter. I am going to dive into the typical online dating dudes you will find, and I just question myself-how do you think you are going to get girls doing what you are doing? Girls, if you go for these guys-shame on you!


1. The Guy with his Girlfriend/Girls in the Picture
Seriously? Like seriously? This was seen so much in my flipping right or left on Tinder. Your profile picture is you with a girl kissing your cheek on a dating site. No, I do not want to messy up my life being your mistress, no I do not want to do a threesome, and no I am not into a guy surrounded by women. My whole reason for being on this wasteful site is to find a single person, because hello it is a dating site? Why are you wasting your time when you have a perfectly good girl, go be with her or become single. It is that easy, stop wasting everyone's time. Also, if you are surrounded by girls in a picture especially pretty half naked ones, do you know what I am going to think? I am going to think you are a man whore. Yup, swiping left. So, if you have a girl in the picture other than your obvious mom (which I will get to later)-I am definitely swiping left.

If it is an ex, that means you are not over her. I am not a rebound. Plain and simple.

Also, if you have a girlfriend do not go on here. I saw someone I knew active on Tinder, that I definitely knew had a girlfriend of like 6 months. Be careful, she will most likely find out. Just this finding makes me not want to date or be with anyone.

2. A Picture of Your Car
Are you trying find someone to date your car, or are you telling me you are a transformer? Either way, pass! On Tinder, you have .02 seconds before I am swiping left for a no. If you are a car, I am going to pass up. If you want to have a girl talk to you, please let us know what your face looks like.

3. Bromance
Your profile consists of You and 5 other guys. The bad thing is we don't know which of the 6 guys you are. I am guessing you are the big bubba on the end. If your not, than how I am suppose to know? I am not willing to take the risk of wasting my time to talk and meet with you-when I have no idea who you are. This also shows me that I will be fighting for your attention between our romance and your bromances. I do not fight for any males attention. I can just see it now, bros before hoes. It makes me think am I one day going to be left because you have this epiphany you swing the other way? Or, am I going to have our rehearsal dinner blown off for a football game at the bar. It could happen! Pass.

4. Offering to Buy Me Things Instead of a Hello.
"Hey, what's up?" or a typical pick up line/joke are a heck of a lot better than-hey little girl that is 30-40 years younger than me. I have money and I would like to buy you things and be your sugar daddy. You are OLDER than my dad! Gross. Second off, I can buy my own stuff. I am not a bleach blonde playboy bunny looking for a man to take care of her. The whole thing is just creepy-some girls may be into that, but at 23 almost 24 years old any guy over 35 (even that is pushing it) is just not my cup of tea (well unless you are Brad Pitt then we'll talk.)

5. Looking for One Thing
Just this past weekend, I was on my way to a Miranda Lambert concert. My friend had recently gotten a Tinder. She swiped right to a perfectly great looking guy, walah it was a match. Then these perfectly good guys kill it by blatantly asking for "grown up" time in the most vulgar manner. Girls show some respect for yourself and decline. Especially if they type something like "I want my pork to be in your ribs." He legit said this to my friend. Um no, what IS wrong with guys?? No, no, no, and no! Also, if he asks you to his house for a first date-translating to guy "I want to have sex with you tonight." Keep the dates public if that is not what you want.

6. Nothing Going for Them
Yay, I finally find a guy with all his teeth and a non-douchey status in his about me. Match and match, yay! Maybe this thing ins't so bad at all. "Hi, how are you?" "Hi, I am good how are you?" Wow this is normal! Then they proceed to tell you they are 28 working in the deli department at a grocery store, lives at home with their parents, have bowel movement problems, and that is about as interesting as they get. Could you at least go to college, have an okay job, live in an apartment, be interesting, and have SOMETHING going for you. I mean anything?? I heard a saying that "it is hard to find a guy when I have more balls than them." Penelope Cruz, I believe said it. I have a college education while being a single mom. I work in a high-end well paying job, I am about to buy a house, I just bought a new car, I personally think I am attractive, I dress cute, I am the only breadwinner, and I am normal-all before 24 years old. Can I find a guy that has at least something accomplished even if its being the world champion pie eater. Just something.

7. Kids
This is an important one for life ladies, listen up. I am totally open to dating a good guy with kids. Duh, I have a kid so of course I am-they might be more understanding of my kid than one without. But, they make me the most skeptical because of the stereotypical "baby daddy." If they have kids and either are never around their kid(s) and/or have more than 2 with two different women. RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!! Don't just power walk, I am talking do NOT even do it. You do not change men like this, they WILL do it to you. I will be here all day if I continue, but RUN!!!! If they do not have either of these faults and have everything else going on-give them a chance.

I will say this point goes both ways for guys and girls, if the girl has more than 2 kids with several guys, she's not a dime either. She should have learned her lesson the first time.

8. The Douche
You are hot and shirtless and have pictures of your abs without a face-they are nice to look at but, I know your type. I will either be cheated on, or you will never commit to me so you can then get away with the cheating. The gym will always be more important than me. Or the big one, you'll end up beating me. Nope, not going to happen.

9. If I did not reply...
Do not get mad and message me 50 times if I do not reply. This happened on Plenty of Fish. I would get 400+ messages a day. Yup, a day! I am also picky. If I did not reply, that meant I do not want to talk to you. After you message me the 50 times and get mad at me for it. Now you can see why, you're needy. These are the guys who when you give them your number will text you 20 times in 5 minutes before you have time to reply. The most annoying thing ever to me.

10. 20 Pictures of the Back of your Head
Why? It is obvious you don't want us to see your face. That means you are hiding it, what else could you be hiding? I don't even want to know. The first chance is your face, please show a picture of your face. If not, I will not waste my time-it is just plain scary.

11. The Pizza Face
No, I am not describing how a man looked. This one guy literally had a whole profile centered around a pizza.

This, no joke, was his profile picture, well something like it. His description was that he was hot and cheesy. He would never leave your side, and was always steamy for more. Okay, maybe if you were buffalo chicken pizza I mighttttt just give you a chance, but I just do not like ham on my pizza, okay! This one was funny, but a lot of guys were making jokes out of their profiles, saying stuff like "we will just tell my mom we met at a coffee shop," or "I am just looking for some playas to ball out with in the ATLien." There are a whole list of reasons why this is NOT okay. I am just going to leave it as phrases like that are things guys actually put in their profiles. Sentence one=Momma's boy, Sentence two=Thug. I don't want to date either.

12. Momma's Boys
It might be a good thing because if he treats his mommy right, he will treat you right. But, the momma might not. You'll always be fighting for his attention. You most likely will not want this lady as a future mother-in-law.If he has picture of his mom, says phrases like "I love my mom," or talks and cares only about his mom. Mmm, better not.

13. Thugs
If he looks like a thug, talks like a thug, and oozes everything thug-he is probably a thug. Not my type-if you want to get pregnant and have him leave then he is probably yours.

14. Probably Hiding Someone in Their Basement
You know, that profile picture angled just below their chin, they have a small beard, white guy, dark eyes, brown hair, and a bit on the trashy side. They just scream scary and, they will probably murder you. These guys are probably not the ones you want to meet up with, let alone give them your name and number. I just read an article on a stabbing from meeting someone on Tinder-this is the main reason I have NEVER met up with someone from online.

15. Mirror Pics.
The guy that stands in front of the mirror with his little whisker mustache, flip phone, Abercrombie shirt that hasn't been in style for 10 years, frosted tips, no muscles at all, and is most likely in high school posing as a 25 year old.

16. Name
No Ibadudu Osmon, if I cannot pronounce your name. I can guarantee you we will have nothing in common. Neither will SexymayI69 and I have anything in common.

17. Frat Boys
You are not going to be interested in me. I am not a bombshell blonde, and I have a kid. I also know you will probably have 20 other girls you talk to and party with from this site.

18. Gamers/Nerds
I know I will be second place to your Starwars collection and Halo 3. I do not like Dragoncon either. Can I dress up like Elsa? Probably not. If you are playing a video game in your picture-there is probably a reason you are on here. I am sure there is another girl on here interested in that, though.

19. I Like Long Walks on the Beach
I can tell when your profile is made up and stereotypical. Please be original. Do not make stuff up either. If you are lying now, you will lie later. You like beer and football, I am not dumb.

Also, if your first message to me is 2 pages long going on and on about you. I can totally tell you copy and pasted that. I definitely do not feel special, and I will ask you about you as the relationship develops. Let's not give everything away all at once. Boring.

20. Goes No Where
Cute-check, Success-check, Normal-check. I start talking to them. There is just zero chemistry for me. I just do not know if it is because of the online setting or what, but I feel nothing. I then do not want to move forward. After going through all of these in about a 3 day time period, I end up just deleting my profile.

Alone forever is what it is looking like, a guy I want is not going to be online in a dating site-he will be way more confident than that (I probably totally just dissed my own self since I was desperate enough to try it.) These guys embody everything I do not want. I cannot even make it to the dates because I just know I do not want to proceed with anyone. A girl just knows if it will happen or not. It might work for some-but for me it is another dead end.

Tips for a good profile:
-Having fun in your profile pic-hold a guitar, white water rafting
-Have more than one picture of your FACE that is not a pizza
-Originality in profile description
-Honesty
-Funny-Just not in a perverted way
-Going places in life-a chimney sweeper is not going places (literally talked to a guy who was proud to be a chimney sweeper, he won't stop snap chatting me to this day, that was a year ago.)
-A suit is HOT-Justin Timberlake should have taught you that
-Catch my attention and ask me on a date

These things do not exist in the online dating world or really even in reality, at least not for me booooo^^

I think online dating for me was God's way of telling me to put it in his hands, and for me to wait for the perfect guy when the time is ready. I am not saying all guys are like this either. There are some perfectly great guys-sadly that have all been swooped up and there is my dad who is an AWESOME man. I am just waiting for the right guy to change my mind about what I know about guys. I seriously know them and can read them better than any girl. When that guy changes my mind, I know it will be something special.

So for now, wine and Netflix it is.


I also have no idea how girls are with online dating, so I cannot critique them either since I do not swing that way haha. If you have a story please share! I would love to hear it from a guys point-of-view.



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Haha, I hope you enjoyed my failed attempt at online dating. Pretty much, I have been failing at dating altogether. Well, in another words, I have a lot of more exciting news and updates!

-Leighton is doing great, and she is four now! Oh my gawd! Where has time gone?? I mean look at this cutie...

-I am buying a new car tomorrow, this will be my first car purchase! I am going to get a 2014 Kia Sportage-I need it because...
-I just found out I have been hired as the Marketing Analyst for Sparkle Parper Towel's Brand Marketing Team at Georgia-Pacific in Atlanta starting November 3rd-Yippeeee!!! This is my dream job and everything I have ever wanted. The salary does not hurt either. I will finally be in a place to support a family of me and Leighton. Home purchase is definitely happening now! Plus full benefits: health, life, etc. This single mom has defeated most odds and that makes me feel so accomplished in life.
-Next week is Halloween;) my favorite holiday, Leighton will be Elsa, of course. We have a trunk-or-treat tonight at her school. I cannot wait for you guys to see our Frozen themed trunk!
-Then almost 2 weeks from today, I will be turning the big 2-4. I cannot wait for all that 24 years old will bring me. 23 has been great! I will be taking a trip to Gatlinburg, TN with family that weekend, and I cannot wait.

Thank you so much for reading, hope to post more soon!

Mallory